Interview pertaining to Neusch’s Article

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I interviewed one of my friends, who identifies as homosexual, about same sex marriage.  I asked him a few questions about things that were brought up in class discussion, or things I thought of while reading “Gays Who Don’t Want Gay Marriage” by Natalie Neusch.  The following are his answers to my questions:

1. What do you think about same sex marriage, would you participate in it if you found the right person?                

      I think that marriage is a bond of love between any two people and shouldn’t be defined by sexuality in the state. I feel churches have the right to define marriage any way they feel, but the state should not control who is able to get married. If I find the person that I want to spend the rest of my life I hope by then I will be able to get married, because I would marry my soul mate.

2. What do you think of people who are gay, that do not support same sex marriage?

        I feel that everyone has the right to their own opinion and they may have   strong reasoning that makes sense to them to not support marriage, but I think marriage rights should be equal.

3. Are people who are in a gay relationship less promiscuous than people who are in a straight relationship?

       I think the situation and people involved in a relationship completely defines whether or not their relationship will result in cheating. Two honest people with communication, whether straight or gay, will be able to sustain a long lasting, monogamous relationship.

4. Do you know anyone who is gay and is married? If so, have you noticed a change in their relationship?

      No I don’t personally know anyone that is married.

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Disrupting Stereotypes: “Hey Gaybro, Hey”

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Slate.com’s J. Bryan Lowder wrote an article called “Meet the Gay Bros”.  His article discusses what everyone stereotypically imagines when they think of a homosexual man, and what Lowder experiences when he goes out on the town with the opposite of society’s perceived stereotypical man.  The author tells his audience about his experience hanging out with the group called “Gaybros”, and how this group turns society’s definition of “gay” upside down.

            Lowder discusses further in his article the narrow definition that mainstream culture gives to what it means to be gay.  The “Gaybros”, which is a group created by Alex Deluca, aims to “break down stereotypes” of what someone who is gay looks and acts like.  In the group created by Deluca, men express likes that are atypical to those that are previously held stereotypes of gay men.  The men that belong to the “Gaybros” group like hunting, sports, video games, etc.  Although “Gaybros” is primarily for gay men who like to do things that are not expected of gay men, all individuals of the gay community are invited to grab a beer with the group and hit up the activities that the group plans. 

            Lowder carries on to tell his readers about how the group is doing advocacy work.  The author describes though, the issues that the group is faced with such as they are “naïve” or “just recently out” and are going to have a difficult time doing advocacy work.  They are somewhat excluded from the gay community because of the image they perpetrate.  Lowder concludes that this is because of a few reasons, two of them being that the gay community feels that the masculine individuals are already accepted in our society, and that it is the homosexual men that act feminine, that need the support.  The second reason this group seems to be shunned is because the men that are homosexual that like typical heterosexual activities, seem to have more friends that are straight and do not belong to the gay community.   I find it interesting that homosexuals are excluding other homosexuals, when the groups should be joining together as a joint effort to make “being homosexual” more acceptable in the mainstream society.

            While I think that it is good that there is a group created for men that are typically left out of a community, I think that the group that does not emulate masculine characteristics should not be shunning the group that has masculine characteristics.  They should be using the group that perpetuates masculine characteristics to gain approval from society.  To me, it seems like this is the same lesson that we learned from the movie “Mean Girls”, if other girls’ call girls bitches, and other ugly names, it only makes it seem okay for boys to call girls bitches, and other ugly names as well.  To make this parallel with the homosexual culture, if the gay community is shunning some of their own, it only makes society feel better about shunning the gay community as a whole.

            I had never heard of the “Gaybros”, but I especially like that they are teasing societal norms for what is the general picture of a gay man.  The “Gaybros” are also tangling what the term means for other gay men that act more feminine than masculine.  I think that the gay community is having a difficult time untangling what it means to have masculine guys in the gay community that have many friends of the same sex that are heterosexual and will participate in activities such as sports and video games.  Perhaps when the gay community becomes more accepted in mainstream society, the gay men that do not necessarily perpetuate a typical gay man stereotype will be accepted as well.

http://www.slate.com/articles/double_x/doublex/2013/03/gaybros_the_reddit_group_of_macho_gay_boys_and_their_trouble_with_fellow.html

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Fired For … Being Gay?

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A writer for CNN, John Sutter, wrote an article called “No One Should Be Fired For Being Gay” this article is about a man who was fired from his job as a corrections officer in Mississippi, because he was gay.  Andre Cooley called the police due to a domestic dispute between him and his partner.  One of Cooley’s coworkers responded to the call, and realized that Cooley was gay.  Cooley was later fired, because he was found with his partner.  He later regained his job, but it was legal to fire him based on the mere grounds that Cooley is homosexual.

This article hit close to home for me because of an incident that recently happened in Columbus.

I went to a Catholic school in Columbus, and although I did not go to the school that the teacher was fired from, all of the schools in the CCL district are rather close.  When I found out that a teacher, Ms. Hale, from Bishop Watterson High School was being fired because she was gay, I was appalled.  The only way that the Diocese knew was because her partner was listed with her in the teacher’s mother’s obituary.  Hale did not bring her partner to a sporting event, a school event, or a Church event.  It was only because it was mentioned in the newspaper, and a parent found the name, to which she later reported to the Diocese.

There are 29 states in the United States that recognize being homosexual as a reason for an organization to terminate an individual.  As much as we would like to think the opposite, being in a gay relationship is still not totally acceptable.  So unacceptable to society, that it is acceptable for it to be legal to fire someone based on his or her sexuality.

http://www.cnn.com/2013/03/22/opinion/sutter-employment-discrimination-lgbt/index.html?iref=allsearch

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/04/18/carla-hale-gay-fired-teacher-catholic-high-school_n_3103853.html

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Senator Portman’s New View

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Senator Portman, representing Ohio, recently started supporting gay marriage.  He had been opposing gay marriage, and rights, until his son came out to him as gay. Portman is running for the Republican Party, which opposes gay marriage. In an article from the New York Times, written by Trip Gabriel titled “Doubts and Downloads in Ohio After Portman’s Shift on Gay Marriage”, Portman’s actions are discussed, and the how fellow Republicans are processing this news.

Gabriel writes that when Portman turned his position from banning same sex marriage to supporting same sex marriage.  I believe that it is not fair for Portman to change his views simply because his son is gay, and came out to him.  I say that I think it is not fair because I think that he should have been supporting it before his son came out to him.  I do not understand why it has to take someone close to you being in a situation to change a stance on something.  I think that if Portman was a good candidate and had motives besides his family, he would have changed his mind some time ago.  If he is representing the public, he needs to keep the public in mind, not just his son.

I know that it is good that Senator Portman is in support of same sex marriage.  It will raise awareness to a party that usually does not turn their head for something of the sort.  Portman’s publicity, of turning to same sex marriage, whether good or bad, will get people’s attention.  This attention that is being raised will provoke people to look into Portman’s son’s story, and possibly lead them to other stories of those fighting discrimination because of their sexual identity.  While I do not agree with Portman’s motives, I appreciate the publicity that Portman brings to this issue.

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/04/05/us/politics/senator-portman-ohio-fallout-shift-same-sex-marriage.html?pagewanted=all

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Reflecting on McCaughey’s “Homo Sexual”

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Martha McCaughey wrote a work titled “Homo Sexual” in this work, she writes about the neurologist Simon LeVay.  LeVay was looking to link homosexual desires to biology.  There were some flaws though, in the studies that LeVay performed.  The brains that were examined were all taken from those individuals that died from AIDS.  The brains of those who died from HIV transmitted through needles were assumed heterosexual, and the brains belonging to men that died from HIV from homosexual activity were assumed homosexual.  McCaughey reminds us though that the men who had HIV from homosexual activity may very well have not been homosexual.  LeVay concluded that the hypothalamus is what determines if one is homosexual or not. 

McCaughey writes that there could be many variations that could affect LeVay’s findings.  In our progressive world, sex changes are available, different sexual identity options, etc.  McCaughey informs us that LeVay also did not include women, because they did not interest him. 

Although LeVay did not have sufficient evidence, he was on the right track, meaning that he was exploring homosexuality as a source from the inside, not outside conditions. 

What I gained from McCaughey’s article is that we do not need to make “science our bible”.  Meaning that we can produce theories on this concept, and try to make sense of it in our world that we are living now.  We need to use the resources we have to make sense of it, and make decisions about homosexuality on our own.  We can dig deeper into ourselves, and see how homosexual individuals can help and progress our world.  We need to keep in mind that we do not always have to first see the individuals sexual orientation, but instead see the individual’s character first, not their sexual identity.

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The PLACE

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As I was searching for images, I came across a video of individuals who were showing support of their loved ones who identified as homosexual. Some of the people are individuals who identify as LGBTQA, and some, as stated earlier, are those who support the LGBTQA community. The people holding up the signs defy stereotypes, say what they have heard people say about their loved ones, and describe how The PLACE has helped them, their family, or both. It is a group of individuals who create a safe network called the PLACE which, as described by The Modesto Bee’s writer Marijke Rowland, stands for “People Learning Acceptance Creating Equality”. The photo that I attached earlier under the title “Not Broken” is a still shot from this video.
I think that this video, and article I have attached that is on the same page as the video, describes Boswell well in Fausto-Sterling’s article. Being that Homosexuality is, in fact, nature not nurture.
http://www.modbee.com/2013/02/06/2566590/video-made-in-modesto-supporting.html
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Not Broken

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Not Broken

This image has been circulating social media sights for some time. It has been on Pinterest, Facebook, and Twitter just to name a few. I thought of this image when I was reading Fausto-Sterling’s article, “Thinking About Homosexuality”. In her article, she discusses the historian, Boswell. Boswell states that homosexuality is, in fact, nature- not nurture. Which is why I think that this image resonates so well with the article. This image is telling us that his son cannot be fixed, simply because there is nothing broken.
The man in the image is a “man’s man”. He fixes machines, and is in overalls, which is usually worn by working class men. Coincidentally, this is usually the type of person that one would imagine opposing homosexuality. He is telling us that his son is something that does not need to be fixed, because it is the way that nature has made him. Not something that needs to be fixed, because it is not broken.
This image/ advertisement is from a group called the PLACE which is located in Modesto, California. The PLACE stands for People Learning Acceptance Creating Equality.

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